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Sheep or Goats at Christmas

It’s that time of year. We begin to see lights on houses, trees decorated showing through windows, and seasonal ads and specials all over the television. It’s Christmas season; that time of year where we fight through crowds to buy gifts for our families, light a candle each week in church for Advent, and talk about a “season of giving”.

But does any of that change our lives; our hearts? Recent terrorist attacks in Beirut and Paris have reminded us the world is still a broken, scary place. How do we respond? As followers of Jesus, how do we live out a Spirit of Christmas in a world we fear?

I think back to the story of Christmas. Though His people were disobedient and the world full of sin, God decided to give His Son to us. So He chose a young, unmarried, middle-eastern woman and the man she was betrothed to. He knew that they didn’t have the right situation or status, and He watched as they traveled to Bethlehem and were turned away from any comfortable place to sleep. And there, in a stable, Jesus was born.

I think about the way Jesus treated people. I love the story of Jesus meeting the Samaritan woman and offering her living water. Though He shouldn’t have even been talking to her since He was a Jew and she a Samaritan, Jesus changed her life through their encounter. I remember how Jesus touched the lepers, though he could be contaminated. I think of how He dined with prostitutes and tax collectors; the outcasts of a righteousness-obsessed culture.

Then I think about the way Jesus died. Though He is the Son of God, the Creator of the universe, who is limitless in His power; He chose to allow His own creation to murder Him in the most humiliating and excruciating way possible. For the sake of His children, He allowed Himself to die, and He did so willingly.

Jesus tells of judgment in the book of Matthew. He says,

... ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the creation of the world. For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me.’ “Then these righteous ones will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink?  Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing?  When did we ever see you sick or in prison and visit you?’

 “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’

 “Then the King will turn to those on the left and say, ‘Away with you, you cursed ones, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his demons. For I was hungry, and you didn’t feed me. I was thirsty, and you didn’t give me a drink. I was a stranger, and you didn’t invite me into your home. I was naked, and you didn’t give me clothing. I was sick and in prison, and you didn’t visit me.’ ...‘I tell you the truth, when you refused to help the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were refusing to help me.’ “

This Christmas season, who do we choose to be? Will we be like the sheep, like Jesus Himself lived out His mission on earth? Or will we ignore the hurting, the poor, the refugees, the sick?

At the Mission Table

Photo thanks to Marie Onwubuariri

For the last few days, I have been in King of Prussia, Pennsylvania with about 100 pastors, region staff, and national staff to discuss and make a way forward for the denomination. It was an opportunity to look at the world we live in, the challenges we face, and to set priorities for our work going forward. It was a busy, tiring, but valuable experience with a hopeful end of helping our churches encounter these challenges too.

The time we had together began with some opportunities to break the ice, get to know some things about each other, and begin the process of working together for a goal. It was cheesy, and we learned a lot about how poor pastors are at geography, but it got us started. Also, out of the groups formed during ice breakers, we found our team for prioritization. The next step was choosing from a large list of priorities to establish 5-7 that would be most important for this season of ministry. It was clear that all the priorities matter, and many are continuing to be worked on, but we would have to choose the things that our efforts could be put into going forward. The list of priorities came out of table conversations at the 2015 Mission Summit this past summer.

The entire list was:

Our Leaders

101.  Discipleship – How can we develop mature and faithful followers of Jesus Christ in a world where so many of the traditional practices seem not to work?

102.  Living Out Our Cultural Reality - The ABC is already a multi-ethnic organization and the U.S. is fast moving to be so; what does that mean for our ministry as we move into the future?

103.  Next Generation of Leaders and Congregants – How can we work alongside the next generation of leaders to co-create a future ministry together that includes all generations?

104.  Pastoral Attrition - There is an increasing pattern of pastoral attrition—people leaving the ministry—especially after the first five years of ministry.  How can we curb this trend?

105.  Spirituality – How can I deepen my relationship with God, allow faith to play a more vital role in my life, and discern what God’s next steps are for my life?

106.  Volunteerism* – How can we partner in ministry with the increasing number of persons looking for meaningful work apart from their paid or pre-retirement positions?

107.  Women in Ministry - Women in ordained ministry continue to be under-represented in ABC ministry in terms of the proportion of ordained women who are available to serve, especially in significant leadership roles.  How can these barriers be overcome?

Our Witness

201.  Refugees from Burma* - How can we better understand and alleviate the plight of refugees who have fled from atrocities within Burma as they await resettlement and arrive in the United States?

202.  The Gospel in a Rapidly Changing Society* – How can we engage Christ’s presence in a rapidly changing world?

203.  Human Trafficking* – How can we build upon the strides already made in curbing human trafficking in prostitution, agriculture, labor, and other areas?

204.  Immigration* – How can we partner with what God is up to with respect to U.S. immigrants  and immigrant congregations?

205.  People with Disabilities* – What should ministry look like with respect to people with disabilities?

206.  Poverty* – The gap between the haves and have-nots continues to grow. How can we better understand and deal with the causes of poverty?

207.  Violence – Violence dominates the media headlines. What should the role of the church be in dealing with violence in today’s world?

Our Future

301.  Alternative Models of Pastoral Ministry - Many small congregations are unable to employ full-time, seminary trained pastors. How can we create, support, and encourage congregations to embrace new models of pastoral leadership?

302.  Community Networking* – This is now the “age of networking.” How can church leaders partner with community leaders in order to create the types of communities that God desires?

303.  Congregations of the Future* –How can traditional congregations experience the new forms of congregational life that are emerging?

304.  Congregations without Buildings* – Increasing percentages of church budgets are going toward the maintenance of a church building. What might a congregation look like with no physical building?

305.  Missional Church – Many ABC congregations have embraced a missional model of ministry. What have we learned and what are the next steps in this approach?

306.  Revitalizing Aging Congregations* – Many congregations include a significant number of older adults.  How can these congregations find new life and hope that extends beyond a survival mentality?

307.  Technology – Why do some congregations embrace new forms of technology while others strongly resist it?  How can technology be used as a tool for ministry?  

*Denotes a new conversation for 2015

As a group of 5-6, we would go to each theme, discuss it's importance to us, and mark it with up to 3 dot stickers according to our group's priorities. This process didn't seem like it would be very helpful, but it was surprisingly challenging and positive. The things I expected to care little about were made clear as priorities to many outside my realm of ministry, and vice versa. The process was great and we eventually, through the dot-sticking process, were able to set 7 main priorities.

Photo thanks to Erica Van Brakle

The next step was to choose a priority that each one of us was interested in to form a new group and write a case statement about it. These statements would be used to give a clear understanding to the priority, and to help our churches see the need to address them. (Again, this doesn't mean we stop doing ministry in other areas. In many cases, ABC/USA is already doing a lot of work on the other topics so they are not included in the top seven.)

I chose "Gospel in a Rapidly Changing Society" because I see a real need for our churches to learn to bring the Gospel into our context, which is definitely changing all around us. We had a large group, which broke into two in order to work in smaller teams.

Then we talked. We talked and talked and talked some more. Did you know that pastors like to hear their own voices? It's true. In fact, the biggest struggle of the week for me was that in these groups, we seemed to be trying to solve the problem rather than clarify it. But eventually, we made our way through the guided questions so that we could put a statement together. (Shout out to Deborah Jackson of Ministers' Council for taking all our comments and compiling them into something legible.)

Among all the work, thought, and conversations, we were led into worship by Zina Jacque; who challenged us, encouraged us, and told us to rest or die. :)

I'm grateful for the opportunity to be a part of this process. And I'm hopeful for the future of our denomination and our work for Christ. There are great challenges ahead; like learning to love, worship, and do ministry together even when we disagree; like replacing the humble leadership of Roy Medley, who I was blessed to have as a part of my group this week and is retiring. But in the midst of these challenges, I am praying that we can do great things together for the Kingdom.

Click here to read the ABC/USA article on the Mission Table.

Wives, Submit!

Alright, I have your attention.

I’ve been thinking a lot about submission lately. In a recent sermon on transformed relationships, submission came up as an important part of the way we treat each other in the Kingdom of God, and it’s been circling around my head ever since. It comes from the book of Ephesians, just before Paul tells wives to submit to their husbands and husbands to love their wives. In fact, I think it really informs the later command to wives by showing what true relationships are.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  Ephesians 5:21

Submission is an interesting thing. I think that we automatically think of submission as a point of weakness where we are forced by a greater power to compromise our own freedom for theirs. It is in that sense that many see women submitting to their husbands, who can hold “authority” over them.

What I’m marinating on is the idea that we offer submission to one another radically as the body of Christ; not in weakness, but in strength. In the same way that when Jesus calls us to “turn the other cheek” to another, He is not asking us to become a victim; submission isn’t about authority at all, but about humility among brothers and sisters of the Kingdom.

The cool thing about mutual submission is that it takes hierarchy completely out of the ministry of the church. If two of us with opposing ideas can submit to each other humbly, there is no more power struggle. Instead, we have to find the good in each other’s perspective and seek consensus through the Holy Spirit together.

Now this may seem tough. It is. In fact, if we are be serious about submission, I think we first have to learn to submit to God in our everyday lives. This is a concept that we are losing today. While many are interested in spirituality, love, forgiveness, and service; the idea of submitting ourselves to the wisdom and will of God is not popular. We each seem to think we know better for our lives than the One who gave life to us to begin with.

But what if we took submission to Christ seriously? I’ve been wrestling with the call to submit to God’s will in all the areas of my life this past few weeks. That means that each day as I wake I have to say with conviction, “Jesus, this day is Yours and I’m open to what you want from me.”  It means that going into a meeting I don’t feel like going to, I submit not only my attitude but that meeting to God’s desire instead of mine.

Do you know what submission has done to me? It changes my perspective. It’s crazy that things I really don’t want to do can be made sacred by offering myself to Jesus for those things and the ways He intends to use me. I’m not there yet, but I’m seeking to be a person of submission; to God and to His people. Now, I submit this idea to you. What do you think?

Runners... Unite.

My first car was a 1968 VW Beetle. I bought it two months before my 16th birthday. It was a beautiful red bug and I learned quickly that owning a VW was liking joining a cult. I quickly started collecting VW and bug memorabilia. But the coolest part was that everytime I passed or saw another old bug, there was an excited wave or a fun conversation with those in our club. It was pretty amazing how quickly being a bug-owner led to automatic friendships with people I'd never met.

I feel like running should be that way. Since I starting taking running more seriously, I feel like I have a kinship with runners that I come across. It's like we're all a part of the same club and I feel like we should act like we know each other. I'm always excited for the people I see sharing my obsession. I'm proud of them for doing something to be healthier, and hopeful that they've found a love for it like I have. But I think I'm in the minority because as I cross paths with runners and try to offer a greeting, I'm often met with a simple, seemingly annoyed wave off. Do they not know we're both in the club? On the other hand, people out walking are often kind, smiling, and offering greetings of their own. Why can't we be like that?

So, a word to runners:

What's wrong? Why are you so grumpy when you come across other runners?

I figure it could be one of three things...

1. You take this way too seriously. You're trying to bust out a personal best, keep an incredible pace, or prepare for a big race. Okay cool, but settle down. We're engaged in a sport that involves simply putting one foot in front of another. It's not rocket science. Get over yourself.

2. You are self concious about running and feel like anyone who crosses your path is judging you. We're not. I don't care how fast you run or how silly you may look doing it. You're in the club. So don't worry so much and acknowledge your teammates.

3. You're judging me while I'm running. Understandable. I surely look like an idiot.

So, runners. Chill out. Smile, wave, and be an encourager of others. We're all in this together.

On making statements

As a Jayhawk fan in Hawkeye country, I find myself out of place sometimes. But before my family moved to Iowa when I was in 4th grade, we had already decided that the Jayhawks were going to be our team. Here's the story of that decision. (As I remember it.)

My brother, Ryan, and I were new at school in our small western Kansas town of Ness City when the question came up: KU or KState? I was in 1st grade and had no idea what they were even talking about. Ryan was in 3rd grade and so I deferred to his wisdom on this important issue as these new classmates waited for our answer. I just remember my big bro saying "KU", and there the decision was made. (Only later did I find out that his reason was because most of them liked KState and he hates to go along... and a girl he thought was cute liked KU. I fully support both of those reasons.)

The feeling of making a decision like that continues today as we find a divided country over a multitude of issues. Whether religious, political, or cultural, we can't seem to agree on much and that has led to groups and leaders deciding that they must make a statement about their stance on these issues. I'm not so sure that's the way to go.

Let me give an example.

Long ago in a land far away, a young man came to my office with a question. He and his girlfriend were getting pretty serious and he wanted to know what I thought about them moving in together. We had the opportunity to talk through the moral questions, the statistical information, and common sense as we tried to discern what was right for him and his relationship. It was a great conversation where I had the opportunity to share a Biblical perspective in a positive way. Most importantly, I shared with him that no matter his decision, we loved him, accepted him, and consider him family.

I think back to that conversation when I think about how we minister to a culture with many different values than we followers of Jesus may have. (Especially considering that not even all followers of Jesus agree on them.) As this young couple experienced the influences of friends, family, and culturally accepted practices; they still wanted to know what I thought God would want. Maybe instead of arguing over social media, making grand church policies, or making statements on where we stand on the issues we face; we should focus on being approachable and available to speak into the lives of our neighbors when they ask us to. Maybe we should quit worrying about taking sides and instead be focused on loving those on both sides of each position.

The reality is that the answer to our search in this life is not a set of rules, but the person of Jesus. And that doesn't really always make it easier to know what is right and what isn't. We can't just go back to the rules to be sure. Instead, we go the Spirit and invite Him to help us discern God's will for our lives. Maybe it would be easier if we had it all in black and white. But praise be to God for offering Himself instead.

What do you think? Should we be drawing lines in the sand or seeking another way?

And they'll know...

Just over 10 years ago I had the opportunity to go on a trip with my church in Chicago to visit with their sister church in Guanabacoa, Cuba. It was a rare opportunity considering going to Cuba was illegal for most. It was an amazing trip. My favorite part was having the chance to play music with their church’s worship team. They had some amazing musicians - much better than me - and they had a great theme song for our trip. The words went like this… “We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord, and we pray that our unity will one day be restored. And they’ll know we are Christians by our love.” Like me, do you automatically start singing this song when you read the words? For me, it’s an old faithful from growing up in the church.

I was struck by those words this week at Forest Lake Camp during our Sick & Twisted week as I taught teenagers about faith through movies. They come from Jesus’ final commandment to His disciples at the Last Supper. He says to them, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13)

What I noticed this week wasn’t what Jesus said, but what He didn’t say. I’ve heard that verse and song hundreds of times, but it had never struck me the same way before. But right now, I think the church needs to hear it. Jesus didn’t say - and neither does the song - that people will know we are His disciples by our morality. He doesn’t say they’ll know us by our political views, our righteousness, or our stance on gay marriage, abortion, or gun control. He says they’ll know that we’re His by our love for one another.

It seems right now that the church in America looks more like the Pharisees of Jesus’ time than the disciples. Pharisees were constantly worried about morality and doing what the Law said was right. And that was understandable in their situation. But Jesus came to teach something greater than legalism. He came to teach us how to love. Yet we find ourselves bickering over all the same things the Pharisees bickered about. And when someone within the Christian community comes out with a different perspective, different interpretation, or different belief; we pounce in outrage.

Of course it’s important that we work out our understanding of the world as we walk with Jesus. It’s important that we seek righteousness that comes from Him. And It’s important that we try to represent Him by following His ways of living. But our first job is to love as He loves. That is a love that supersedes agreement or unity of belief. It’s a love that is active and hospitable to those we disagree with. It’s a radical love that Jesus showed to the “sinners” of His day, to the lepers that He touched, and to each of us when He went to the cross. Can we be a church of people who love? It’s not easy, it’s not natural. But it’s the way that this world needs to experience the risen Christ. 

Wheeling for Jesus?

Well I never really expected this.

I recently bought something called an Electric Unicycle, and it's the coolest thing I've ever had. Basically, it is a wheel with a plastic housing around it with an electric motor and a gyroscope. You stand on the pedals and lean forward to go and backward to stop and reverse. After a couple of hours of practice and bruised ankles and calves, it is tons of fun. I bought it as a commuter to work and back when I don't have to drive the boys anywhere. My V10 Excursion isn't exactly what they call "efficient" with gas, so I wanted something that would be better. I had a gas scooter that was great, but rarely rode it due to being on kid transportation duty many days. So I sold the moped and bought my Airwheel X8. This way, even when I have to take the kids to school in the morning, I can bring the Airwheel and zip home and back for lunch.

My EUC (electric unicycle) can go about 13mph and will go for about an hour of solid riding time or around 15 miles on a charge. So it takes a few more minutes to get somewhere than driving, but it's way faster than walking.

What I didn't expect is the extra commute time from being stopped by people on the street. In fact, if you are interested in getting to know people or are in ministry, this may be the best tool you could have. I can't wheel anywhere without people staring, stopping, and talking to me about it. I've had cars pull over to ask what I'm on, people come out of their houses to catch me and talk, and even one guy yelling from his truck, "Are you from the future?"

I love it. If you don't like people or attention, this may not be for you. But for me, this is so much fun. I've gotten to meet people I never would have otherwise and talk with them about all sorts of things beyond the wheel. I've spent a half hour getting to know new neighbors across the street after they asked me what I was riding. I got to meet a family on their front porch who may have no church or faith connection. But now, I can say hello and call them by name when I run into them again. And maybe God will use that.

I think the most important thing is this; being unique forces me to pay attention to the opportunities to love and share with people I meet in a way I just haven't when I'm not standing out. I allow myself to ignore people when I'm walking or driving because relationships are not forced upon me.

So I'll try to take advantage of the attention I'm getting and try to use it for God's glory. And maybe, we can all do the same even when the opportunities aren't quite so obvious.

And... if you like people, go get an EUC.

April Fools

I remember this one day when I was about 10 years old. My love for Batman was in full swing, especially with the “new” Michael Keaton version out on video. I watched that VHS every day for months. (I’ll explain VHS later, kids.)

My sister comes running down the stairs excitedly and tells me that one of her teen magazines had a contest to meet Michael Keaton and ride in the Batmobile and she entered me. And I won!

I was flipping out! I don’t know if I’ve ever been so excited in my life. Until…

“April Fools!!”

I cried.

You would think after that, I would hate April Fools’ Day. But I can’t. Katie is an April Fools’ baby and that makes it a day to celebrate.

This year feels like someone is once again making April Fools out of us. With Katie’s recent diagnosis of Thyroid Cancer, we can’t help but think, “Really? Again?”

When people hear that Katie has been diagnosed with the same Cancer that I have already battled twice - though hers is a different variant - they are understandably shocked. So are we. What are the chances?

But this is kind of par for the course for us. Since getting married at the ripe old age of 20, we have dealt with our share of blows.

Our last week of college was canceled after a tornado hit our campus causing 20 million dollars of damage and demolishing our apartment while we were in it. It was a scary, crazy few moments as the F3 tornado hit, blew out the windows, threw a dumpster from 200 yards away into the wall we were up against, and knocked out all the gas meters. We lost many of our belongings, had college cut short, and finals were canceled. (I could have used one or two of those finals.)

After moving to Chicago with plans of a teaching job for Katie to support my seminary education, it never materialized. So we fought through 3 years there with multiple jobs and lots of credit cards.

Then I was diagnosed with Cancer.

Then, 5 years later, it came back.

Now, this.

Life sucks…  April Fools.

I mean, yeah, there are a few instances and seasons of junk, but life is awesome. We have felt, seen, experienced God with us through every single one of these struggles. He has walked with us and remained faithful to us constantly. We've seen God’s people step up to love us and help us.

We have healthy, wonderful kids; healthy, supportive parents; and an amazing church family. We have much to be thankful to our Creator for, and very little to complain about.

It all depends on what we’re looking at. Are we blinded by the struggles so we miss the blessings? Too often the answer is yes. Instead, I want to be like Paul and Silas singing praises in prison.  Don’t you?

This year is going to be a challenge, but out of our challenges, comes growth. And I always wanted to be taller anyway.

Not a "good cancer"

My Thyroid Cancer story on Jamie Frey's awesome blog.

Skip the Rules

What would you think if I told you to ignore the rules? You know the ones I’m talking about; all those Old Testament rules that churches love to talk about. I’m so sick of talking about rules all the time. It seems like rules only lead to two possible extremes: either you follow them to the letter or you scrap them and do what you want. At least those are the only two authentic options. Anything in between is hypocrisy.

It’s this issue that Paul is dealing with in his letter to the Galatians, found in chapter 5. He is trying to write to both the legalists who think the Jewish law must be followed by Christians and antinomianists who think Jesus’ sacrifice means they have no moral expectations anymore. And Paul gives us a much better solution to this issue than either extreme. He says to forget the laws and instead let the Spirit of God be our guide.

I am awful at directions. I’ve learned that if I’m going to get anywhere, there must be a voice telling me where to go. So there are two women in my life that help me get where I need to go. My wife is a phenomenal navigator who can remember how to get anywhere she’s been to once. She’s my go-to guide in the car, but if I’m alone the voice of my beloved GPS makes sure I reach my destination. Don’t bother giving me a map, I’m not interested in searching out a route, and prewritten directions have too many ways to fail. I want someone with me who knows where I am and where I should turn next.

This is life in the Spirit. The Bible isn’t meant to be your prewritten directions to take you where God wants you to go. It’s the story of God’s love for His creation. He didn’t leave us directions, He offered to go with us and help us know where to turn. And if we are willing to live with God’s Spirit in us, we don’t have to worry about the rules. God will guide each step and help us know what we should do in each situation.

And if that isn't enough, Paul reminds us that living with the Spirit brings some amazing things into our life. Imagine not only have God’s presence there in all situations, but also being given a better life. A life full of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness faithfulness, and self control. I could definitely use some more of those attributes in my life. Could you?